Marriage Counselor
I joke with my clients that my business card also says, “Marriage Counselor” at the bottom. It does not. But sometimes dog problems are very connected to couple issues, even small ones. Yes, I have actually seen quite a few arguments between humans when I am working with a dog, but I’m fine with that, of course, and happy to play diplomat if I can.
But experience has taught me that often the dog problems are not being solved because the necessary family member involvement isn’t happening. Full implementation of the dog plan doesn’t occur because a human is not doing their part. I can wrack my brain and figure out new protocol elements to try and I noodle out what isn’t working—but I know that often change isn’t happening because the plan isn’t being followed.
Sometimes one partner is totally on board with giving the dog structure and being consistent as much as possible, but the other partner throws the other under the bus by doing nothing or the exact opposite of what is recommended. One human can be too tough and the other is too soft. The cue words we are using can be in a list on the fridge, but the whole family isn’t using the same words.
And sadly, difficulties in human relationships can be highlighted by raising a dog (or child?) together, and no one is happy. With a little extra effort, even different styles and personality types can adjust and help the dog lead a great life. Having a third party involved (the trainer) can help with perspective and accountability. We can adjust to the needs of the family and certainly of the dog.
Perhaps I also need to keep a few therapist numbers on speed dial to share….